Out loud, to another person.

Have you? Would you? Could you? Do you appreciate that uneven toes does not count as a flaw?

I, like a myriad of others, delighted in Elizabeth Gilberts, "Eat, Love, Pray" the story of her journey (literally and figuratively) to find her happy. Apparently, she did. Fast forward to her next book called "Commitment." I read an excerpt of it. I'll admit to it. Because, I am easily amused. And can't focus on deep, involved prose for long periods of time.

Definitely a flaw.

She proceeds to synthesize her flaws into a manageable five, that she presents to her then future husband, as she called it "a prenuptial informed consent release." They were beauties. I could easily related to at least 3 of them. And added a few more of my own. But aloud?

Of course, he graciously, lovingly and thoughtfully accepted her statements, asking her if "there was anything else that he didn't already know." Awww. So sweet, so loving, so supportive and, clearly, the right answer. Particularly if she is writing a next best seller about commitment. Would have been a short story, if he had answered, "Too bad, I'm outta here."

So back to the question. 

Would relationships proceed more smoothly, without as many fits and starts, if both parties laid out their perceived warts and boils right up front? For those not all that introspective, they could confer with their past relationships, their therapists and their friends to make sure their list is on target.

Unlikely.

But, I like the concept. 

Being perceived as Perfect, you see is simply too hard to maintain.